Breakups in general are hard, but nothing is worse than breaking up with your best friend. Somebody you expected to be there with you for the rest of your life suddenly stops being there and that difference is hard to get used to all of a sudden.

Here are some things that happen when you split up with a friend and how to deal with it:

Mutual friends.

There could be some mutual friends who both you and your ex-friend still talk to so it may feel awkward at first when they bring them up. This is normal but it’s best if letting it go and not acting any different than you normally would. Don’t comment on it, don’t let it bring the atmosphere down and just move on.

Bad mouthing.

Sometimes it will feel like you need to let out pent up anger towards the other person, but it honestly won’t do anything; it will create this even bigger tension and make others uncomfortable. It is recommended to not bad-mouth your ex-best friend even if the friendship didn’t end on good terms. And if you do it will make you seem petty.

Accepting it’s over.

This is hard. It is really weird having to adjust your daily life to excluding someone you would talk to daily. It is uncomfortable at first when you have to avoid the person in the hall, in your class and on social media.

Time will heal this. Try to distract yourself with making other friends in class, and as you walk to class talk to others. Before you know it, it will become the norm. There is no need for closure sometimes and that is okay, you don’t need to talk it out if its not worth it.

Do not obsess.

Whatever was said, whatever was done, do not obsess over it. It has happened it is in the past. Trying to remember where everything went wrong won’t help bring the person back. Just learn from the mistakes.

When it comes to friendship, break-ups it will be hard even if the friendship wasn’t good. It will take time to get back to normal and it will take a lot to get used to it, but it is going to get better.